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What Will People Think?

Hearing Brene Brown's talk at the Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit was the start of something for me. I watched her TED talk, I'm reading her book "Dearing Greatly", which is brilliant - I'm reading it slowly. I'm thinking about vulnerability and perfectionism, about authenticity and about being the real me and being seen.

Today I read about perfectionism, that it's all about hiding our flaws, managing perceptions and wanting to win over people. Brene says " if we want freedom from perfectionism, we have to make the long journey from "What will people think?" to "I am enough."

"Perfectionism is a twenty ton shield that we lug around, thinking it will protect us,

when in fact it's the thing that's really preventing us from being seen."

This is a big idea, isn't it? If it's something you can relate to too, I wonder how are you putting down your shield and being seen?

Today I took my camera on my dog walk, because ..."research finds that perfectionism crushes creativity - which is why one of the most effective ways to start recovering from perfectionism is to start creating."

If you'd like to find out more about Brene Brown's research and ideas, there are More articles and videos of her speaking here

Comments

Karen Mehta said…
Hi Catrina,

Thoughtful post and lovely Pics :-) I have found making and creating things a healing process, and it makes me vulnerable to others, because people can choose to like or not like the things you make…and I discovered that that was OK too!

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